Some of our donors and supporters have raised the following question:
Birth control from the man’s side is easier and less expensive than from the woman’s. A vasectomy is a less invasive procedure than fallopian tube ligation, and promoting condoms carries the additional benefit of Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) prevention. So why not concentrate on men’s sexual education, vasectomies, and condoms instead?
We would like to answer this question in the project blog so as to address this particular aspect of Children of the Border’s approach to reproductive planning.

This couple was waiting for their first baby together. The baby died a few months after birth of a simple respiratory infection.
The most important reason is that we are a different kind of organization than most. Almost all Non-Governmental Organizations (NGO’s) that operate in the Caribbean work by sending an ‘educator’ in an air-conditioned SUV, who organizes town meetings about sex, birth control, or whatever issue is most important to the organization. Typically, at the end of the project, if you ask them why the conditions in the field are exactly the same as when they came, you get replies such as “you give talks and more talks and they just don’t listen”.
Children of the Border realizes that this is not the way to run a social program. We make a special effort to operate according to a model that takes into account the specific concerns facing the community. We try to avoid many of the pitfalls of ineffectiveness that too often doom community “education” initiatives to failure. We do not talk down to grown men and women like they were children, we do not offer rich people solutions to poor people problems, and we take responsibility for the failure or success of the work we do.
To convince a man to get a vasectomy and use condoms, there are a huge number of social and cultural stigma that must be overcome. Such an effort requires another man from the community to step up, undergo vasectomy surgery, and testify to others that it did not render him impotent or castrated (yes, this is a legitimate concern in many communities and parts of the world). You need this man to go house by house, and sit down with every other man, away from the crowd, and convince him why it’s the right thing to do for himself, his wife and his family. From all the years we have worked in this community, we know that most men will do what they feel is right and their duty in front of their families and their community. This takes very little money, but it still takes money: we need to hire a man and give him a small stipend (US$120/mo), funds for transportation (motorcycle, gas, maintenance and repairs), uniform and ID badge, train him, and provide emergency medical funds to take care of men who discover they have an STD.
With women, the story is different. They carry the cost of the children. They are the ones chained to the house looking after 8 or 10 kids in absolute poverty for 15 years for each child. They are the ones risking their lives on every birth on a dirt floor 3 hours walking distance from their nearest hospital. To these women, you just have to ask once if they want birth control, and they say yes, right now, and where do I sign up?
At this moment, we have found that the most effective and efficient way to stop unwanted births is by working with those that are highly motivated to change their reproductive destiny. Right now, in this community, those people are overwhelmingly women. Indeed, nearly 100% of women we have spoken with in the community want to have the tubal ligation surgery. They see it as the easiest, quickest way to change their future for the better.
For women, we also already have a program sponsored by the Norwegian Humanist Association through HAMU to protect the Human Rights of their children, and because they are almost always the caretakers and always the ones giving birth, our Human Rights monitors already cover them.
Any complete solution to unwanted births in the forest needs to include both men and women, but so far donors have prioritized the needs of women and children. Although it does not address every problem facing the community, a program to provide women with free tubal ligation surgery would result in economic benefits, more stable family structures, and huge public health progress for a community in which most emergency health problems are directly related to pregnancy and childbirth.




























